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Lewis Robert Bowers Dearly Beloved Husband

Posted on: February 14, 2011

This morning my Lew passed away quietly in his sleep.  We were married July 28, 1975 and I will miss him so.  We were together almost 24/7 for the past 14 years as we traveled around North America as full time RVers and later here in Greensboro in our retirement.  Lew’s heart just gave out; he wasn’t ill, he was just tired.

Lewis Robert Bowers born November 9, 1937  in Athol, Mass.  A retired veteran who served 20 years in the United States Air Force, passed away in his sleep February 14, 2011  at his home in Greensboro, North Carolina.  Survived by Wife Brenda Fay Bowers of Greensboro, North Carolina, son Robert Lewis Bowers of Lakeland, Florida, Step daughter Elaine Brooker Stoots of Land ‘O Lakes, Florida and Step son Miles Anthony Brooker of Seattle, Washington, two grand children Krystle Jackson and AJay Stoots of Land ‘o Lakes, Florida, a sister Georgia Phillips in Althol, Mass and a brother Ralph Bowers also of Athol, Mass.

Lew asked that his remains be cremated and that he be buried in a national cemetery that will be chosen at a later date.

Lew was concerned for and devoted to helping the homeless so I am sure he would be grateful if you wish to remember him that you make a donation to your local homeless shelter in his name.  Lew lived to serve others.  He will be greatly missed by all who knew and loved him.


27 Responses to "Lewis Robert Bowers Dearly Beloved Husband"

Short time ago I stumble upon your blog, at first is sounded funny( the name of the blog) than i started to read it and through your writing and your comments i got to know you and through knowing you i got to know Lew. I feel as i’ve lost a dear friend. Please except my deepest condolences. I am very involve with helping homeless through my church next week is our monthly trip to skid-row to feed, cloth and give care-pkg. It will be done in honer of Lew. My prayers are with you and your family.

From Brenda: thank you “w” Homeless people were Lew’s deepest concern. He felt that homelessness stood waiting for any of us just a blink away with an accident, a bad decision, poor health or whatever. His entire life was one of serving and nurturing. I was of course the biggest recipient of his giving; he pampered me silly. But you know he didn’t care to have anyone do anything for him, even me. BB

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Brenda, my deepest condolences. I will lifting you and your family up in prayer.

Lew sounds like he was quite a gentleman; and I know you must have been proud of him. Hang in there… you are appreciated more than you know.

I know it is a difficult time, but I pray for the brighter days that I know you have ahead of you.

In Christian love,

Joe Guarino
Thank you Joe. Your prayers are sure to go straight to God because you are such a good man. BB

My heart and prayers are with you. I’m so sorry to learn of your husbands passing.
I visit your site often and you keep me informed on many things. Keep up the good work.
Thank you Linda. I will continue my blog as I do enjoy it and I feel it is the only thing I can do to help my country in this bad time. BB

I’m so very sorry for your loss.
Thank you Fec (Mr. Stench 🙂 ) You have been a sweet friend at times and your blog gives me much to think about. You are a great writer. BB

I am so sorry. There will be hard days ahead, but soon the good memories will take hold. Stay strong but lean on your friends when you need to.

I shall hold you in the Light during this difficult time.
Janet please keep holding me up to the Light because I feel I am walking in the deepest shadows right now. It will get worse before it gets better but since I have suffered the death of a loved one before I know that in time the good comes back in memories. BB

May God always be with you during this time of loss, and in the years going forward, Brenda.
Thank you Bubba. I know that Lew will never completely leave me until I am able to join him someday. And God thru my faith has always been my shepherd, He won’t leave me now in my greatest need for His support and love. This may well be the time that He is carrying me. BB

Thank you Dear Friends. Right now I am in the shock stage so am trying to get done the things that need done to alert the government and all the other chores that need doing at this time. Everyone has been so helpful and taken as much off me as possible. I am not sure if I will or will not be doing my blog. I will if I think I can because the blog has been my one daily event that is normal. Lew did so much of the daily chores like shopping and getting the mail, walking Dinah and taking care of bills and the car and oh so many things. He pampered me and left me free to do my own little things. But I am not stupid and I have lived on my own before, with two children even, so I can do this——I’m just a little older and don’t walk very well and the memory thing sometimes goes haywire :).

Please keep me in your prayers as I do you. BB

Brenda, I was sorry to read of your loss. I liked the way Lew was so often a presence in your writing. Many people who never met him in person are mourning him today.
Oh thank you Ed. Lew was in my blog because he was the best of me. He is gone physically but as soon as I can get thru this selfish “grieving for me” period I feel sure he will be back and stay with me until I join him someday. BB

I am very sorry to hear about your loss. My prayers are with you at this time.If there is anything you need don’t hesitate to call me .
Thank you Keith. You have been a lovely friend and I love following your life on Facebook. Right now I have everything in hand as I am just doing all the paperwork and phone calls. About a month from now the numbness will wear off and I will just need a phone call now and then to keep me out of the shadows until my grief passes into the good memories phase which then will sustain me for the rest of my life. BB

Brenda, I’m so sorry for your loss. I’ve always appreciated your kindness.

“Death ends a life. But it does not end a relationship, which struggles on in the survivor’s mind toward some resolution it may never find.”
-Robert Anderson.
Thank you Tony. Lew was the kind and giving one in this couple and he drew me along in his efforts to take care of and nurture people. I will try to continue to keep the better part of me which was Lew as a part of me even now that he isn’t here to prod me along. BB

Dear Brenda:

I’m very sorry to read of you loss. Please know that you are in my and my family’s thoughts.
Thank you Dave. You are a good person so your thoughts for me will surely be heard. BB

I just found out about this. My warmest thoughts are with you. Take care, Brenda.
Thank you Spag. You try to sound like the hard nosed Attorney but underneath you are one of the softest, most caring people. For this reason I know your thoughts are good for me and are reaching out. BB

Dear Brenda,

May the Lord bless you and keep you. May his face shine upon you and give you peace. May he give you strength and comfort during this time of grieving.

My deepest sympathies on your great loss.


Fred Gregory
Oh Fred I am hurting so bad right now and I am still in the numb stage so I fear the mourning phase. But with God’s love and good friends I will make it. I am still here because I have more lessons to learn in this lifetime whereas Lew had finished his work. BB

My Dad & I started to restore a 1953 Buick when I was about 13. When I turned 16 he handed the keys to me, and only took them back for a time when I had done something that I know better than to do.
Now being one of the only persons with a car in my group of friends, one day we decided that we would blow off school and go to the beach. It didn’t occur to any of us that a bright red 53 Buick might stand out a bit, especially in a small town in Florida.
When I got home that afternoon, I was sent to my room. I found out that evening that one of our neighbor had seen the Buick, and called to let Mom know what was going on. I handed the keys over, & waited to get them back. (usually about a month, no more.)
Another time, a different neighbor called when they saw the Buick in Tampa on a school day. I again was sent to my room to wait. Dad got home and ask were I was. ” He’s in his room. Norma saw the Buick in Tampa today!”
“I drove the Buick today. Just wanted to go cruising a bit.”
“Should we go tell him?”
“Na, let him sweat it out a bit. Builds character.”
I still laugh when I think of that. Thank you all for your thoughts, and kind words. Personally, I will honor Dad by trying to live up to the example of being a kind, decent person that he and Mom have shown me.
My dear friends I am so proud to introduce you to our son. Lew could not contain his pride in his Miles. Miles had two fathers who were so proud of him; one was called home to God when Miles was only 20 months old and Lew entered our lives when Miles was 7 years old. They loved each other and Lew was so happy to be Miles’ father.

Lew once said something to me that will live in my heart forever. I was wife number 3 and just out of blue one day Lew said,”If I had it to do over I would skip one and two and come straight to you.” So beautiful to hear that. Then a couple minutes later he amended,”You know if I hadn’t waited then we wouldn’t have Miles and Elaine so I think it was best the way it happened.” BB

“Please keep me in your prayers as I do you. BB”

You and your family are in our pryer(My wife and I and Our pryer group at my church.) i know all the condolences in the world can not ease your pain, but remember that even if you are by your self , you are never alone. I sincerely hope that you continue blogging. This shall pass, but the Love endures forever.
Dear “w” I know this selfish grieving for myself will end someday and I will then be able to finish my life with all the many many wonderful memories made during the 35 years Lew and I had together. Thank you for your prays. I will continue to blog; probably in a week or so maybe. Right now I am not too interested in what the world is doing and only have room for my friends. BB

I mentioned on Ed Cone’s blog, that through your positive comments about Lew over the years, many of us felt that we knew him. Now that you’ve provided further detail about who he has, we did know him.

Just another example of how there are more than 2 or 3 ways to view any relationship; there are at least 27.

WE WILL miss him.
Thank you Reggie. Lew and I did indeed have at least 27 relationships and most all of them have been wonderful. there were a few that were not so nice but pepper makes a good spice :). It was 35 wonderful years. BB

I am sorry Brenda for your loss and I will be thinking of you in the coming months.
Thank you Jeff. I am in the numb stage right now and not hurting too much, but in a month or so the bad time will begin so I will indeed need your thoughts and prayers. BB

I’m very sorry for your loss, Brenda. I never met your husband and don’t know how closely the Lew of your blog matched the Lew of real life, but I liked the Lew of your blog a lot.
I can tell you Lex the Lew of my blog didn’t even scratch the surface of this beautiful man. I never knew anyone who didn’t like Lew and trust him completely. Lew Bowers was one of God’s truly honest and upright men. And always thinking of someone else whom he might be able to help. BB

“Lew wasn’t ill, he was just tired”. Who can read that and not choke up?

Dropped you an e-mail this morning. If there is anything you need, you just ask.

For people-of-Faith, I like this verse from Ecclesiastes:

“A good name is better than precious ointment, and the day of death better than the day of one’s birth.”

Lew waits for you now on the Far Side Banks of Jordan . . . where time and love stand still.

You take care of you.

Much Love . . .
Oh Mary thank you so for your beautiful thoughts. It is the third day now without my Lew and I hurt so bad. Lew was the better part of me. A good name Lew had in spades. When we left Land “O Lakes, Florida to go traveling people called me begging me to reconsider because they didn’t know how they could get along without Lew. You see he had a handyman service called Lew at Your Service and a round key chain with a good one hundred house keys one it because people trusted him. We didn’t know that many people in Greensboro because my health these past 6 years have kept us from getting out and getting to know people, but those who did know him liked him. Not everyone likes me because I can be abrasive, but everyone like Lew. He lived to do for others.

I know he is waiting for me. I will go on because I believe that God only keeps us here on earth until we do what we need to do—-I still have lessons to learn here in the physical state. Love, BB

I just made a horrid mistake with a comment by S Hawkins who is new to my site. When trying to respond to her comment I somehow deleted it and can’t get it back. I am so tech ignorant and don’t know much about these machines. Ms. Hawkins please forgive me I so very much appreciate your words . Sincerely, Brenda

Meant what I said in the e-mail.

For you:
Beautiful Mary. Thank you Dear Friend. BB


Please know that prayers are being said for you during this very sad time. As others have expressed, you did a wonderful job of letting us have an understanding of Lew through your writing.


Thank you Marshall. The many warm sentiments and prayers I have been getting from so may people I have never met face to face but know only thru the Internet means so much. It is now the fourth day without a vital part of me, of who I am today after 35 years with my Lew and I wonder how I am going to go on. I know I will, but not how. I must just put my life in God’s hands now and let Him guide me. I have always believed God gave us all the tools we needed to grow and return to Him and that He expected us to stand on our own two feet and that is how I lived. Seldom did I ask for His help; instead I prayed to thank Him. Now I just need to be quiet and listen for His guidance. BB

“But you know he didn’t care to have anyone do anything for him, even me. BB”

And that is the highest and most noteworthy of a true hero.


I really dont know what to say to folks at times like this..the words “Im sorry for your loss” ring hollow and repetitive…but they unfortunately are the only words one can offer…and I sincerely do..Im sure he was a fine man.
Darrell there are no words for this time. “I am sorry” is the best that can be said. The real help to me are the ones saying the words and not what they say. thank you for so much for writing. BB

Brenda, Brenda, Brenda

I just read your blog from the 14th. I had no idea what had happened. I’m so sorry to hear of your loss. It was always obvious that you and Lew were very much in love. You always spoke so proudly of him.

I know you are probably overwhelmed right now, with so much to do, but know that there are many friends out here praying for you and for God to give you the strength to carry on.

I noticed that you mentioned you were not sure if you would continue blogging. I hope you do. I think Lew would have wanted you to continue blogging so that you will always have friends close by. This was probably Gods plan all along.

In times of real sadness I have (like many) turned to the Bible to help me through. I have always found this poem to be most comforting. I hope you don’t mind me passing this on to you. It is a familiar poem but to me very comforting. No matter what the reason for my sadness, whether it is a big problem or the passing of someone dear to me, I find that this just always seems to apply to the situation. I hope when you read it as you have probably over the years, you find some peace.

Psalm 23
The LORD is my shepherd,
I shall not be in want.
He makes me lie down in green pastures,
He leads me beside quiet waters,
He restores my soul.
He guides me in paths of righteousness
for his name’s sake.
Even though I walk
through the valley of the shadow of death,
I will fear no evil,
for you are with me;
your rod and your staff,
they comfort me.
You prepare a table before me
in the presence of my enemies.
You anoint my head with oil;
my cup overflows.
Surely goodness and love will follow me
all the days of my life,
and I will dwell in the house of the LORD
forever ss
It has been a week now Snappy and as you see I am back to giving my opinionated rant already :). Lew did enjoy my blogging because then he didn’t have to listen to me “get it off my chest”. He was informed but hardly the activist I have been having gone into the military at 17 he learned early to keep his opinions to himself and continued this practice thru out his life.

Strange that you should choose the 23rd. Psalm to pass along to me. These are the words that I speak any time I am in need or fear.

As I have been telling friends who have contacted me today: I am doing well emotionally but having a bit of a time of it physically. Tried to carry my trash to the dumpster the other day and tho it is not more than perhaps 300 yards it was too much for my legs and I was standing about 1/4 th of the way back praying fervently that I would make it back when one of the yard men came by in his golf cart. I waved him down and begged for a ride home.
Today I drove the trash down to the dumpster on the hood of my car on the way to picking up my mail at the mail house. Just a matter of using a bit of ingenuity.! 🙂 BB


I thought we would agree on Psalm 23. It’s really a beautiful poem and so very helpful to those in need. I’m glad you liked it.

As for the garbage try and get some teen in the neighborhood to take your trash out maybe 3 or 4 days a week, or each night. You would be surprised what a couple of dollars will do especially if it’s every week and then again you might find one that will do it for free. Yep, they still exist.

It starts with the garbage, and there will be many more changes to come along, but you can handle them just take them one at a time. Bottomline you might find a whole new outlook on life. Just remember when God shuts a door he usually opens a window. Great things lay ahead for you, so keep your eyes open. ss

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